Child abuse and neglect, sexual abuse and domestic violence

YOU YOURSELF GET OUT OF CONTROL OR CROSS OTHERS’ BORDERS
When you feel you have become abusive towards your dear ones (aggressive, forceful, controlling, bullying, irritating, falsifying, lying, denying, isolating, financially abusing, neglecting their physical or emotional needs or have an issue with respecting sexual borders), please ask for help (a very important step 1), see https://dewaagnederland.nl for specialised help and call Veilig Thuis (Safe Home) at 0800-2000 24 hours a day 7 days a week, see https://veiligthuis.nl.  .

YOUR OWN OR SOMEONE ELSE’S BORDERS ARE BEING TRANSGRESSED
If you suspect child abuse or neglect, domestic violence or sexual abuse or when you experience abuse yourself you can discuss this with your therapist or doctor and call a helpline https://findahelpline.com/nl/topics/abuse-domestic-violence or Veilig Thuis (Safe Home) at 0800-2000 24 hours a day 7 days a week, see https://veiligthuis.nl. Please watch these vimeo messages from Team-Kim https://vimeo.com/409240633  (for children and adolescents) or https://vimeo.com/409234045 (for professionals and others).

CHILDREN CAN CALL ‘DE KINDERTELEFOON’ ph. 0800-0432.

IN CASE OF RAPE OR SEXUAL ABUSE
If you yourself were raped or sexually abused you can call a CSG (Centre for Sexual Assault) at 0800-0118  24 hours a day 7 days a week, see https://www.centrumseksueelgeweld.nl/csg-en/ and https://www.watkanmijhelpen.nl/victim-blaming/documentaire-sunny-bergman
See the factsheet for core numbers about sexual abuse: Factsheet cijfers over seksueel geweld in Nederland

In case of child abuse and neglect or sexual abuse Dutch law requires assessment according to the reporting code child abuse and neglect. This may involve collaboration with or mandatory reporting to ‘Veilig Thuis’, multidisciplinary centers for child abuse and neglect and other child protection services or international legal services even if you signed a privacy statement or enjoy diplomatic immunity. It also requires consultation of external and internal colleagues and time for writing letters, reports or filling out paperwork. All this time of all team members will be invoiced on top of your regular treatment. If you have a concern about possible child abuse and neglect or sexual abuse it is your adult duty to seek help for the children and family involved as soon as possible. We offer the right diagnostic assessments, counselling and treatment options for victims. Perpetrators are being referred to De Waag, https://dewaagnederland.nl .

We are a member of the European Network of multidisciplinary approach of genderbased, domestic violence and child abuse and Family Justice Centers

See also
https://www.nspcc.org.uk/preventing-abuse/child-abuse-and-neglect/
https://aifs.gov.au/cfca/publications/what-child-abuse-and-neglect
https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/whatiscan/

a print of this page Factsheet coercive control [Dutch]
Factsheet child abuse and neglect sexual abuse and domestic violence